This Wednesday was a little on the lower side of the scale, if we're visualizing it as such. Ellie was a cranky broad nearly all day long, but Ben however, was simply the sweetest most obedient little bug. And so it goes.
3:45 a.m.: Newborns are super loud sleepers, so it makes sense that I would put Ellie in the bassinet right next to my bed (insert confused emoji face here). She only wakes once to nurse in the night, usually around this hour, but it's often hard to discern whether she is actually awake and hungry or just grunting and sighing and passing gas. Anyway, I grab her and change her diaper, reswaddle her and nurse her for about 25 minutes on the left. She always nurses the longest at night. I read a few blogs and scroll through instagram.
5:45 a.m.: My husband leaves for work, he kisses my eyebrow.
7:05: I wake up naturally (have been around this hour). I want to go back to sleep, but I know the mornings go much smoother when I get up before the two of them. For a while it was unpredictable when our days would start, but it's falling into a more succinct rhythm. I've been showering at night to save time in the mornings, so I put on jeans (don't throw eggs at my house, they are still maternity jeans), my stable nursing tank top and a hoodie. I pump one breast while brushing my teeth and spraying an abundant amount of dry shampoo in my 6-day unwashed hair.
7:30: I make the bed quietly (this helps me feel better every day), check Ben on the monitor (still sleeping). His entire life he's been a gem about hanging out in his crib quietly in the mornings until we get him (usually), and he usually sleeps until 7:30 or 8:00, but we finally got an "okay to wake clock" that turns green at a set time. We decided to set this to 7:30 so that at least I would have a better 'time' to run off for helping the mornings go smoother (my most stressful time of day). This way if he wakes earlier, I don't feel pressure to go get him and he knows he needs to hang out and chill.
7:35: Let old dog out Coco out and keep young dog Jesse in and feed him. I'm relieved that no dogs have had diarrhea in the laundry room this morning, because the last two mornings that has been the case. Throw clothes in dryer.
8:35: Ben is talking to Ellie about all the toys and telling her he will be 'right back' and runs into his room to grab his little lovey to show her and tells her about his "Beebee blue guy", and then he shows her a bunch of flash cards and tells her what is on each one (this melts my heart). I clean up the kitchen real quick.
8:45: Ellie starts fussing (she's either sick of Ben shoving toys in her face or she's getting tired). I think probably both. Newborn's wake time in the morning is really short and they get overstimulated easily. I ask Ben if he wants to watch a little show on my laptop. I've been struggling to figure out how to get her down for a nap while Ben is at my feet, so this is the answer for now. He chooses a Mickey Mouse clubhouse.
8:50: I check Ellie's diaper and get her swaddled and start shushing and bouncing with her.
9:00: Ellie's eyes are closed and she's in sleepy land on her cleavage pillow. I lay her in the rock-n-play and head back out to the living room where Ben is watching his show. We cuddle up together and I write a few emails on my phone.
9:50: Ellie is rustling around again, so I put her in the ergo to finish her nap since we have friends coming over soon and I don't want to be in the middle of taking care of her and being there for my shy toddler when people arrive.
10:00: Our friends arrive! I haven't seen this mama for a while and our boys haven't played together before, and they were both shy to warm up. Eventually the boys play on the deck together while Ellie sleeps in the ergo and Sarah and I chat in the living room. This is wonderful adult conversation and it feels amazing! I'm happy Ben is playing and having fun.
11:00: Ellie wakes up in the ergo, so I take her out and nurse her on the couch (I try and follow an eat/wake/sleep pattern with my babies) while my friend Sarah and I continue chatting.
11:30: Sarah brought a fruit salad and a delicious kale pasta dish for lunch. She holds Ellie while I make the boys lunch and eat something myself.
11:55: Boys finish eating, Ellie is fussing and I know she's tired, and the only option is once again the ergo since there is so much going on right now and I know I won't have time to try and get her down for a nap on her own, so back in it she goes. Sarah eats her lunch and we chat while she does a few dishes and helps clean up all the toys.
12:20: I put clothes away in Ben's room while he picks up more toys in his room and plays with cars.
12:35: I call Justin to say hi and see when he will be home for the day and am sad to hear it's later than I was hoping.
12:45: Ben is still playing in his room so I go into our bedroom and take Ellie out of the ergo and lay her in the rock-n-play (hoping she stays asleep but knowing probably not). I'm bummed I have to wake her up in order to put Ben down, but such is life now.
12:50: Go back to Ben's room and change his diaper and have him pick out a book. We sit in the chair and read a book together and read and chat and snuggle before putting him down.
1:05: Leave Ben's room and go back to find Ellie is awake but sitting there quietly. I fill up my water cup, use the bathroom, and grab my kindle.
1:10 Swaddle Ellie and rock with her until she falls back asleep and read Outlander while holding her on my chest.
1:35: I check the monitor and see Ben hasn't fallen asleep but is rather playing with his feet and singing to himself.
2:15 I hear Ben crying, and I know he didn't fall asleep today but he had an hour's rest...his wake clock is set for 1.5 hrs at nap time since he only naps 3 to 4 times a week now. I tell him through the monitor he needs to wait until his clock turns green.
2:30 Ellie wakes up, so I unswaddle her and lay her on the bed. She starts fussing and crying so I move her to the swing, and check on Ben and see his clock turned green so I in to get him.
2:35 Get Ben, he's upset because he bit his tongue while jumping up and down in his crib. He also pooped so I change his diaper and listen to Ellie screaming in the swing (remind myself I physically can't be in two places at once and she's okay until I can get there).
2:40 Put Ben at the table with some snap peas and a lara bar for a snack.
2:45 Nurse Ellie while Ben has his snack. Ben gets down from his chair to brings me some of his snacks and feeds them to me (we might be on to something here).
3:00 I put Ellie on the play mat and Ben 'plays' with her and does a sticker book nearby. Ellie is gassy and spitting up and super fussy so I walk around with her for a bit, then put her in the rocking swing someone loaned us. I'm starving so I heat up some rice and leftover chicken and toss an avocado in. I drink a bunch of water. I'm usually pretty good about staying hydrated but today I feel like I've been taking care of the kids back and forth all day and haven't had much self care. I sat down to eat and 3 minutes later Ellie started screaming. I pick her up and go out on the deck with Ben and eat my food while bouncing with her in the sunshine.
3:45: Ben and I walk around the property collecting rocks, flowers, and sticks while Ellie naps in the ergo. I let Jesse back outside because Ben adores him right now. Ben picks a bunch of grass for Jesse to eat (ha!) and pets him and throws balls at him trying to get him to play. Ben lays in the grass and closes his eyes and giggles, runs around the yard, and is generally having a wonderful afternoon. Meanwhile my back is killing me.
5:15: Justin could see I needed a baby break so he took Ellie (bless him) while I started dinner. Someone gave us some little steaks and we needed to cook them up, so he grilled and baby-bounced and toddler-entertained while I chopped veggies and sautéed mushrooms.
6:15: Ellie cries, Justin gets her, and I start the kitchen clean up. Ellie is really screaming now, so he changes and swaddles her and we switch duties. I take Ellie into the bedroom to nurse her and try and get her down for a catnap.
6:30: Success. I close my eyes and rock and nurse while Justin does toy clean up and starts bath time with Ben. Since he didn't have a nap today he needs to go to bed early.
7:15: Ben and I read three books together, and sing a few songs. He thinks it's really funny to ask me to sing make-up songs right now (the chair song, the pants song, the lamp song). Basically he looks around the room and picks an object and wants me to sing about it. Ha! He asks me to sing the 'boob' song (pass), and the 'tree' song. I sing part of Alan Jackson's "I'll buy ya tall tall trees and all the waters in the seas....I'm a fool fool fool, for you," and Ben thinks that's great.
7:30: Say goodnight to Ben and pop open a carton of dairy free ice cream (gosh that makes me sound like a glutton) and write a little more about the day while Justin strolls around the house with a fussy baby.
8:00: I go into the bedroom to get Ellie but she lets me know she is not interested in nursing and seems content enough just being held by her daddy. I take advantage and hop in the shower, brush my teeth, and put on pajamas.
8:35: Change Ellie's diaper, reswaddle her, and nurse the cute grumpy gal to sleep.
9:00: Lay Ellie in the bassinet, pump the breast she didn't nurse on, use the bathroom, and climb into bed.
9:30: This is the earliest I've been in bed and ready to close my eyes in a couple of weeks! Hooray! I send subliminal messages to my husband to rub my back but he doesn't receive them.
Sigh. Gonna do it all again tomorrow. While Ellie Jo was fussier this particular day than most, Ben has been such a happy and positive little boy lately and I just love spending time with him. He's so silly and is constantly making me laugh. And I'm still amazed at how much and equally I love Ellinor as I do her brother...I'm so blessed to be the caregiver of these precious little souls. Days with a newborn are a lot of work, and life with two is a lot of work, but I wouldn't have it any other way. What a good life.
These are some of my favorite posts to write, even if they are more for me than the small following I have here. I love looking back at how my days were spent at different times in my kid(s) lives. You can read some others here, here, or here.